forms of transphobia you should watch out for in your speech and thought processes
- casual cissexism: associating genitalia/body parts with gender, statements like “god i’m such a lesbian i love vaginas” and “guys don’t understand periods at all” or anything that implies people with vaginas and breasts = female and people with penises = male
- nonbinary erasure: phrases like “opposite gender”, statements that imply male and female are the only genders
- intersex erasure: phrases like “opposite sex”, statements that imply there are only two sexes and that everyone is born with strictly a vagina or penis
- assuming gender based on appearance: if you don’t know someone’s gender, don’t assume they are female and don’t refer to them as “she” just because they appear dfab or femme. don’t use gendered terms to refer to someone whose gender you do not know.
A lot of these are hard to change about your day-to-day life, but absolutely easy to do on Tumblr. The first one in particular is a huge problem for me personally on here.
And it really extends past statements of genitals and includes assumptions of childhood experiences and socialization. I don’t want to get caught up in the huge mess of the “all men” feminism issue, but do I think there’s good reason to think before asserting that something is common to or not experienced by all men.
I personally can’t deal with the cognitive dissonance and having to remind myself that just because the post says all men, and just because it’s completely exclusive of my experiences, doesn’t mean that I’m not a man. It’s made me unfollow a number of people who blog about things I agree with and care about. And I mostly avoid feminist blogs prophylactically. Because Tumblr is supposed to be fun, not make me feel like my experiences are unimportant.
Specifying cis men (unless you’re 100% sure that the post in question pertains only to people who were dmab and feel comfortable with that) can be worse. Because at least when someone says all men, I know they’re generalizing and erasing a lot of experiences, not just mine. But with cis men, it’s basically someone else (generally cis) deciding (often inaccurately) what being trans excludes me from.